Here you are all grown up, responsible, and you have learned how to survive in your world. You have learned how to act, how to interact, your phobias, your boundaries and how to live your life. As we dig a little deeper, we might see that as a child we were told how to act, how to interact, learned others phobias, learned others boundaries and how to live our life was determined by others. When we were children, we were excited to learn about our worlds. As these small children our brains developed causing our imagination to flourish. There was nothing that we could not become or could do, the possibilities were endless. The only fear we had was not getting what we wanted. We did not have boundaries. Then it happened we were told “we can’t”. It might have been a teacher, sibling, or parent that said those words but, the impact changed our lives forever. We can’t, was a pivotable moment because we believed we could. The innocent child started not believing their imaginations. The doubt started setting boundaries where it was safer not to try than to believe that we had those endless possibilities. Life would never be the same. The imaginative boundaryless child found out that there were limits (boundaries). The child in the mirror did not know who to be. So they reached out externally for their behaviors. How do I need to act, what do I like, how do you love, what am I scared of, and how do I stay safe? They listened and learned to the external voices. Their circle of grown people around them. But, those people had their own boundaries that they had learned from their people and they past them down to the child. The carefree child took on those past down boundaries and they become their own. We learned from others boundaries because we were lost in this new world without imagination. So, we learned, we soaked up everything from everyone around us. It was all we knew how to learn this strange new world. We became what others were. But how do we break this pattern of passing boundaries down to the children and how do we go back to that wonderful imaginative child? We need to look back in the mirror and see what the beliefs, phobias and boundaries where we attached to ourselves from the influencers. We need to detach what does not serve us in our world and then we need to understand who we are by going back to the child and let the boundaryless imagination free. When we can see who we are and free the child we will see a future of endless possibilities instead of limited boundaries. The adult can fuel their lives with inspirations of a better life and make it possible.
Who do you see in the mirror? Does it reflect the person that was a child or the adult that was externally created? The adult who can’t. When we look in that mirror, who talks to you? Is it someone else’s voice? The voice that is not your own telling you, how to act, how to love, what your fears are, and to stay in a certain lane. It is hard to turn off these voices because we do not trust the child who believes in the possibilities. The child that can’t because they have limitations. The adult has been programed to believe what others have taught us. But, the teachers had their own issues and agendas. They were not trained to properly set you for your wonderful life. They taught you the way they were taught. One after the other creating what they saw was safe for you because that’s all they knew. It is a cycle that you can break. Train yourself to look into that mirror, shutting off the voices and see you for you. Understanding what was given to you and what you can create. If you were given something that does not serve you, let it go and create what does. I know, it is easier said than done but, start to recognize them and you can change them when you’re ready. If you can start to see the trends of what your influencers do and you do them, you can see that you have learned the habit. Does it serve you? If not let it go and create a new habit. When you can start to master recognizing the behaviors, begin to let your imagination in so you can create more possibilities of the extraordinary life you deserve.
The child who believes in endless possibilities is within you still. It never left you. It was just told it can’t and ran away. When you need them, they can come back by your dreaming imagination. Go back and become that child again. Believe that you can do anything you want to. It is even more powerful now that you are an adult because you can make it happen. You can use the child’s endless possibility dreaming into realizing your wonderful life. The limits you put on yourself can be released when you let go. The child does not see the boundaries or the fear but, the possibilities. When my youngest son was going to preschool for the first time. I was crying as I drove him to his first day. He started crying because he did not know what was going on. I was putting on my fear of kids not liking him or judging him cruelly through my past experiences and was frightened for him. When we got there, I dropped him off and got into my car. I sat there crying in the parking lot about what could happen to him. The fear of his hurt and sadness. I was in awe as I watched him go to the playground without a tear in his eye and run up to a group of kids. He said without hesitation his name and then said let’s pretend we are jellyfish. All the kids began to run around the playground flapping their arms and looking like the happiest group of jellyfish I have ever seen. I sat there in amazement that he went in with no fear, judgment or boundaries. The thoughts of the fear were from me and he had his own story to write. The child was not taught yet they can’t, he was full of imagination and free of boundaries. The possibilities are endless when you can bring your child back out and now as an adult you can use your knowledge to turn them into action.
Become the child again and dream of what you love. Take the imaginative child’s dreams of the love of animals and take steps to having a farm. Take that child’s imagination of creating art to your art talents. Take that imaginative child of floating with jellyfish to taking up scuba diving or becoming a marine biologist. It is never too late to let the child out again. Now as an adult you can manifest your child’s dreams to reality. We were given this beautiful imagination with no boundaries to live the life that we are supposed to. It is attainable if you let them come play with you again with no external voices holding you back. Become the child and dream again.