The conversations we have with others and ourselves control our paths forward. Our talk we use both internally or externally can be our best friend or our worst enemy. What we say has a huge impact on your journey. Some people are afraid over conversations because they fear a perceived outcome. While others use conversations to manipulate to get what they want. Too often conversations are driven by a lack of something our purpose needs. We use this medium to hold us back or to get what we need internally. This need starts the conversations in our minds. We battle with ourselves over if the conversation is warranted or not. We have sleepless nights talking to ourselves over the outcomes. These fears of conversations can hold us from moving our lives forward. I cannot have the conversation with the boss for the raise that I believe I have earned. He will get mad and fire me. So, we debate with ourselves who is talking to us. This debate is swayed by fear and emotions from something we need and do not know how to get it. We fear we will get in our own way. We question ourselves. It is our ego or our frighten child, that drives the debate. Is it the voice of greed or is it the voice to protect us? I am the hardest worker in the company, or did I do enough to earn the raise? The ego will say you deserve it, no matter what. The frightened child says don’t ask you’ll get into trouble. Our mind goes to extremes finding no middle ground and spins out of control! The ego or the frightened child does not think rationally. They are extreme thinkers. It is either Yes or No. It depends on the situation to which side that shows up. If your ego wins the debate you go into the conversation with emotions on your sleave and if your frightened child wins you will not even try. Either way it is the perceived outcome of the conversation that drives our train of thought. In reality we do not know what the outcome will be because it is driven by so many factors. The variables are the boss, emotions, wording, effort, so on and so on… We should go into the conversation open to whatever the outcome may be. When the ego and child talk in your mind they create scenarios and lean you into the dark side of the outcomes. The dark side of conversations are the “Why did I say that?” and the “What ifs?” Both are powerful factors to the outcomes and that we worry over after the conversation or lack of one. If we go into the conversations full of emotions our words will not match our content and if we do not have the talk, we will question what could have happened. These are real consequences of conversations and can cause us to shift off our path to our abundance. Conversations are important to our journey. They can leap us forward or hold us back. To deal with these much-needed conversations we must understand what we need from them, we must find the middle between the ego and the child, we must be centered to have to have a rationale talk and we must understand that whatever the outcome is, we can move forward from it. When you bring these tools to a conversation you will have a better outcome because you will know you are on your way to your purpose. Trusting outcomes from conversations is our worth shinning through. You know you will be taken care of because you are worthy of what you need inside.
What do you need from a conversation? If you start debating with yourself about having a talk with someone, you have been triggered from a lack. A lack of worth that you do not deserve the raise? A lack of confidence to ask for one? A lack of appreciation for all you do? These are just some examples of why we start the internal talks. Your mind goes into overload in debates. Theses internal debates stop you from progressing your life forward. The filling of the need is never done, and we rinse and repeat. The lack is there to just spin us out of control searching externally for a way to fill it. What should happen is when the debate starts in your mind, to search internally for what we need before we go into the conversation. What is my need that needs fulfilled? Is it something I can feed myself before I have the conversation or is it something that I will be ok without if I do not get the desired outcome? Either way we are taking care of what you need without the need of the outcome. It will make the conversation seem less important than the debate indicates. The battle of the rationale mind and the ego or child is lessened when we can fill our own need.
Finding a middle ground instead of extremes will help the conversations fill the need it is intended to be. The ego and says it is all about you, when in reality it is all about us. A conversation involves to participants. Bringing in the ego of I am right no matter what will be charged with unneeded emotions. The frightened child will say it is not my fault. Either way it is the extremes of us focusing on the one side of the conversation which is our vantage point. The other participant will only see theirs and there is the disconnect. The middle is the common ground and if you can come into the conversation there you will be in a place of more understanding. The middle is where you do not care how the outcome will come out, you will be fine either way. The voice of rationale thinking lives in the middle, not in the extremes. When you go into that internal debate before a conversation look into the extremes and find a place where the outcome does not matter. Placing the outcome as a moment we will move from when it is over. Neither caring which way it goes. Doing this will free you to have the courage to have the conversation. Having a predetermined battle or outcome will have the ego or child in control, not you. Finding the middle of rationale thought instead of extremes will guide you to your path forward.
Having yourself in a place of peace instead of turmoil will bring better outcomes. When we go into a conversation with emotions firing, the response of the other participant goes to the defensive. The communication breaks down immediately. Shut down happens and all listening is lost. The other side is going into a conversation like a submissive dog on your belly. Saying sorry and apologizing during the talk. This has the participant ready to show their dominance over you and the situation. The key is coming from a rationale state. Taking the time to close your eyes and center. Being in a place free of emotions or fear. The participant might go into their own emotional tirade but, the session diffuses quickly with calm rationale talk. When we can come from this place it will make the outcome be of less important because of our centered rationale state. The moment of the outcome moves on more quickly.
Moments are just that, moments. Everything passes in a fleeting second. It is only when we hang on to them do, they continue to affect us. The outcome from conversations passes as soon as it is over. We move on and so does the other participants. It is hard to realize in the moment that it will pass but, it does. It may affect you and them but, what happened, happened. Life moves forward and the pass is gone. We impacted each other’s lives for a moment. The universe brough us to the junction of the conversation to propel us forward on our journeys. Embracing the conversation because they have to take place. Just like altering life events, conversations impact us as well toward our abundance. Knowing the no matter what happens you will be ok, is what the universe what you to learn. When you can learn this for your journey forward it will be learning curves not roadblocks and you will embrace the needed conversations more openly.
Conversations are needed to propel our lives toward our abundance. By understanding what we need, while taking control over the internal debate, we can open ourselves up to a rationale conversation. The ego and the frightened child have no place in the rationale conversations. Being centered and knowing the moment of the outcome will pass will help us not hold so much on the situation. The more we can embrace our external and internal conversations as needed to get to our abundance the more we can let go of the heavy weight they impose on our mind. Be free to have the conversations knowing you are moving forward. The debates of the mind will only delay your journey. Make the conversations work for you and live a worry-free life. Your abundance is waiting on the other side.